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As you look across all media, including TV commercials, you increasingly see black women paired up with white men. The creators of these shows, namely the writers and producers are far more comfortable with this kind of pairing. Better yet, the white males are seen having his choice of a black female on one side and a white female on the other. But seldom do you see black males playing leading, authoritative roles, with a supporting cast of white and black females. Hardly is this black male seen as intelligent, attrative, sexually appealing. And he is never seen as the powerful, attrative, smart businessman who is wanted by all women, let along another black female. Recently, Oprah Winfrey said during a Cosby Show Family Reunion, her most memorable Cosby Show was a scene when Bill Cosby laid his head in the lap of his wfe while she stroked his head. Oprah said she had never seen this on TV before and we have not seen it since. Depite the broad success of the Cosby Show and the strong father and husband he presented, we have yet to see another show featuring a successful, intelligent African American family in a loving, supportive enviornment. The Cosby Show was loved by blacks and whites alike. What do you think?

More Black Women Marrying White Men And Other Races, Census Reveals

RICHMOND, Va. —  For years, Toinetta Jones played the dating game by her mom's strict rule. "Mom always told me, 'Don't you ever bring a white man home,'" recalled Jones, echoing an edict issued by many Southern, black mothers. But at 37, the Alexandria divorcee has shifted to dating "anyone who asks me out," regardless of race.

"I don't sit around dreaming about the perfect black man I'm going to marry," Jones said.

Black women around the country also are reconsidering deep-seated reservations toward interracial relationships , reservations rooted in America's history of slavery and segregation.

They're taking cues from their favorite stars — from actress Shar Jackson to tennis pro Venus Williams — as well as support blogs, how-to books and interracially themed novels telling them it's OK to "date out."

It comes as statistics suggest American black women are among the least likely to marry.

"I'm not saying that white men are the answer to all our problems," Jones said. "I'm just saying that they offer a different solution."

She reflects many black women frustrated as the field of marriageable black men narrows: They're nearly seven times more likely to be incarcerated than white men and more than twice as likely to be unemployed.

Census data showed 117,000 black wife-white husband couples in 2006, up from 95,000 in 2000.

There were just 26,000 such couples in 1960, before a Supreme Court ruling banished laws against mixed marriages.

Black female-white male romance has become a hot topic in black-geared magazines and on Web sites, even hitting the big screen in movies like last year's "Something New."

That film centers on an affluent black woman who falls for her white landscaper, a situation not unlikely as black women scale the corporate ladder, said Evia Moore, whose interracial marriage blog draws 1,000 visitors a day.

It features articles like "Could Mr. Right Be White?" and pictures of couples like white chef Wolfgang Puck and his new Ethiopian wife.

"Black women are refusing to comply with that message about just find yourself a good blue-collar man with a job, or just find a black man," Moore said.

She pointed to low rates of black men in college, a place where women of all races often meet their spouses.

Black women on campus largely are surrounded by non-black men: In 2004, 26.5 percent of black males ages 18 to 24 were enrolled in college versus 36.5 percent of black women that age, according to the American Council on Education's most recent statistics.

Even after college, Roslyn Holcomb struggled to meet professional black men.

"I wanted to get married (and) have children," she said. "If I was only meeting one guy a year, or every few years, that wasn't going to happen."

The Alabama author eventually married white.

"I think a lot of black women are realizing or feeling that the pickings are slim," she said.

They're made even slimmer, grumble many black women, by high rates of successful black men choosing blondes. For some, they argue, white wives are the ultimate status symbol.

"They don't want a dark chocolate sister laying around their swimming pool," Moore said.

Nearly three quarters of the 403,000 black-white couples in 2006 involved black husbands.

Meanwhile, psychological barriers have discouraged black women from crossing racial lines.

"Black women are socialized to stick by their men," explained Kellina Craig-Henderson, a Howard University psychology professor who studied 15 black women dating interracially.

She said modern black women agonize over breaking male-female bonds forged in slavery and strengthened through the Jim Crow era.

"It may be even more of an issue for educated black women who have a sense of the historical realities of this country, where black women often were abused at the hands of white men," Craig-Henderson said.

Jones remembered being troubled when a white man politely approached her around 1990. Her stance softened years later, after a sobering party experience.

"All the black men literally pushed (us) out the way to talk to the blondes," said Jones, who soon declared, "I'm going to date whoever."

Black men and women have openly feuded before.

At places like Atlanta's Spelman College, black women have rallied against black male rappers characterizing them as promiscuous.

But black men are voicing their own frustrations with women they feel regard them with suspicion. "They treat us all the same," said W. Randy Short, a Washington writer who dates across races. "The rapist on the TV is the same as me."

It's a frustration director Tim Alexander tackles in "Diary of a Tired Black Man," a frank film covering everything from black women's demeanors to their weight. Frustrated by black women, the main character dates a white one.

"To a certain degree, black people are sick of each other," Alexander said. "It would be better for black men and black women to open their options."

But Ayo Handy-Kendi, creator of Black Love Day, argues blacks are simply reacting to messages linking success with whiteness. She referred to a string of successful athletes with white partners, including golfer Tiger Woods.

"They normally rejected their culture and they went to the acceptable standard of success — a white woman," said Handy-Kendy, who thought it ironic high-achieving black women were mimicking the behavior.

Back in Virginia, Jones feels life is too short to ponder race when it comes to love.

As for mom, Jones figures, "she really admires the fact that I did something she may have really wanted to do, and never did."

Smokey Robinson Black Lyrics -Nigger Jokes Apply To All Races

Smokey Robinson explains why he's " A Proud Black American."  Find out why he says all the earth's people are Black whether they like it or not.

Madonna - The Racist?

I find it interesting how some white entertainers from Elvis Presley to Madonna who use their supposed association with black performers as back up singers and dancers to sell themselves to a broader white and black audience. The implied visual association is, I'm just as good and just as talented, see I can hang. But while Madonna appears to embrace Black Culture in her performances, she is clearly a closet racist.

While she loves to use Black male dancers as a sign of her sexual appeal on stage, off, she harbors the same racists sterotypes.

Reverend Jeremiah Wright- Father Pfleger (Flager) Believes Wright Is The True American Patriot?

 

Historially the media often focuses on the dangers of the angry Black man to immediately keep people from hearing the truth. We saw this with Dr. King, Malcolm X ,Muhammad Ali and Minister Louis Farrakhan. Rather than reporting on the entire story, or offering you a broader interview and not the 20 second sound bit, they focus in on one out of context statement. Since most people don't look beyond false information that's  feed to them by those who want to hide the truth, they remain in the world of the ignorant and uninformed. We have seen recently how the media has distorted the image and words of Reverend Jeremiah Wright. Here is the rest of the story:

Factor military duty into criticism:

By Lawrence Korb and Ian Moss,

chicagotribune.com

April 3, 2008

In 1961, a young African-American man, after hearing President John F. Kennedy's challenge to, "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country," gave up his student deferment, left college in Virginia and voluntarily joined the Marines.

In 1963, this man, having completed his two years of service in the Marines, volunteered again to become a Navy corpsman. (They provide medical assistance to the Marines as well as to Navy personnel.)

The man did so well in corpsman school that he was the valedictorian and became a cardiopulmonary technician. Not surprisingly, he was assigned to the Navy's premier medical facility, Bethesda Naval Hospital, as a member of the commander in chief's medical team, and helped care for President Lyndon B. Johnson after his 1966 surgery. For his service on the team, which he left in 1967, the White House awarded him three letters of commendation.

What is even more remarkable is that this man entered the Marines and Navy not many years after the two branches began to become integrated.While this young man was serving six years on active duty, Vice President Dick Cheney, who was born the same year as the Marine/sailor, received five deferments, four for being an undergraduate and graduate student and one for being a prospective father. Presidents Bill Clinton and George W. Bush, both five years younger than the African-American youth, used their student deferments to stay in college until 1968. Both then avoided going on active duty through family connections.

Who is the real patriot? The young man who interrupted his studies to serve his country for six years or our three political leaders who beat the system? Are the patriots the people who actually sacrifice something or those who merely talk about their love of the country?

After leaving the service of his country, the young African-American finished his final year of college, entered the seminary, was ordained as a minister, and eventually became pastor of a large church in one of America's biggest cities.

This man is Rev. Jeremiah Wright, the retiring pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ, who has been in the news for comments he made over the last three decades.

Since these comments became public we have heard criticisms, condemnations, denouncements and rejections of his comments and him.

We've seen on television, in a seemingly endless loop, sound bites of a select few of Rev. Wright's many sermons.

Some of the Wright's comments are inexcusable and inappropriate and should be condemned, but in calling him "unpatriotic," let us not forget that this is a man who gave up six of the most productive years of his life to serve his country.

How many of Wright's detractors, Rush Limbaugh and Bill O'Reilly to name but a few, volunteered for service, and did so under the often tumultuous circumstances of a newly integrated armed forces and a society in the midst of a civil rights struggle? Not many.

While words do count, so do actions.

Let us not forget that, for whatever Rev. Wright may have said over the last 30 years, he has demonstrated his patriotism.

Lawrence Korb and Ian Moss are, respectively, Navy and Marine Corps veterans. They work at The Center For American Progress. Korb served as assistant secretary of Defense in the Reagan administration.

Truth Has No Color!   Please Listen To This From Father (Pfleger) Flager Who Is a Priest  At San Sabina Church On The South Side Of Chicago.

But Dr. Wright I believe your recent appearance at the National Press Club crossed the line and now casts a shadow over what your real motives are. I'm very disappointed.

Father Pfleger's (Falger) most recent comments caused Senator Obama to finally resign from the church. While Father Pfleger's critics are quick to call his comments racist, none are willing to wonder and discussed what motivated a white priest to take this position.

Jeremiah Wright- Bill Moyers Journal Gets At The Truth

We have seen for weeks the vitriolic YouTube out of context sound bits that have been played over and over again, with the devious intent of pouring salt in the wound of the racial divide that has historically plagued this nation. The media, which has very few minorities in any decision making or visible positions of power,  has been duplicitous in presenting a one side view of a very thoughtful, educated and dedicated man.

Bill Moyers interviews the Reverend Jeremiah Wright in his first broadcast interview with a journalist since he became embroiled in a controversy for his remarks and his relationship with Barack Obama. Wright, who retired in early 2008 as pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, where Senator Obama is a member, has been at the center of controversy for comments he made during sermons, which surfaced in the press in March. Hear for yourself:

BILL MOYERS JOURNAL | Rev. Jeremiah Wright | Clip #1 | PBS

BILL MOYERS JOURNAL | Rev. Jeremiah Wright | Clip #2 | PBS

BILL MOYERS JOURNAL | Rev. Jeremiah Wright | Clip #3 | PBS

BILL MOYERS JOURNAL | Rev. Jeremiah Wright | Clip #4 | PBS

After listening, click your back arrow to come back to this site .To Get the full interview: http://www.pbs.org/moyers/journal/04252008/watch.html

Black Americans: Unemployment And Illegal Immigration

Illegal aliens do the jobs that Black Americans will No longer do? 

Those are words you hear coming from many whites and some blacks who try to justify why most of the service jobs that African American use to have are primaryly held by mexican immigrants.  Many employers that say this, use it as their excuse for not hiring Blacks. Those that agree are misinformed.

T Willard Fair, President of the Greater Miami Urban League and Board Member of Center for Immigration Studies, talks facts about the effects of illegal immigration on Black America.

Black In America - CNN

Soledad O'brien of CNN explains why it was important to tell the whole story of being Black In America! She's An Excellent Reporter Who Proudly Speaks of Her Heritage.